Resources
These are some of my favorite books, websites, and videos that you may find helpful.
Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapy
What Is IFS Therapy? (YouTube), by Dr. Tori Olds.
How to Find Yourself | The "True Self" in IFS Therapy (YouTube), by Dr. Tori Olds.
No Bad Parts: Unblending From Protectors in IFS Therapy (YouTube), by Dr. Tori Olds.
Healing Trauma in IFS Therapy: Unblending from Exiles (YouTube), by Dr. Tori Olds.
Internal Family Systems | Inner Child Work (YouTube), by Dr. Tori Olds.
No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model, by Richard Schwartz (2021).
Self-Therapy: A Step-by-Step Guide to Creating Wholeness Using IFS, A Cutting-Edge Psychotherapy, 3rd Edition, by Jay Earley and Karen Donnely (2022).
Why Did I Do That? How You Make Sense and Why There is Hope, by Dorie Cameron (2009).
We All Have Parts: An Illustrated Guide to Healing Trauma with Internal Family Systems, by Colleen West (2021).
Somatic Psychotherapy
In An Unspoken Voice: How the Body Releases Trauma and Restores Goodness, by Peter A. Levine and Gabor Maté (2010).
Becoming Safely Embodied: A Guide to Organize Your Mind, Body and Heart to Feel Secure in the World, by Deirdre Fay (2021).
The Healing Power of the Breath: Simple Techniques to Reduce Stress and Anxiety, Enhance Concentration, and Balance Your Emotions, by Richard P. Brown and Patricia L. Gerbarg (2012).
Polyvagal Theory
Anchored: How to Befriend Your Nervous System Using Polyvagal Theory, by Deb Dana (2021).
Trauma
Healing the Fragmented Selves of Trauma Survivors: Overcoming Internal Self-Alienation, by Janina Fisher (2017).
Transforming The Living Legacy of Trauma: A Workbook for Survivors and Therapists, by Janina Fisher (2021).
Getting Through the Day: Strategies for Adults Hurt as Children, by Nancy Napier (1994).
The Myth of Normal, by Gabor Maté (2022).
Self-Compassion and Mindfulness
Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself, by Kristin Neff (2015).
Fierce Self-Compassion: How Women Can Harness Kindness to Speak Up, Claim Their Power, and Thrive, by Kristin Neff (2021).
Self-compassion exercises (website), by Kristin Neff.
Radical Compassion: Learning to Love Yourself and Your World with the Practice of RAIN, by Tara Brach (2020).
RAIN: Recognize, Allow, Investigate, Nurture (website), by Tara Brach.
Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life with the Heart of a Buddha, by Tara Brach (2003).
Buddha's Brain: The Practical Neuroscience of Happiness, Love, and Wisdom, by Rick Hanson and Richard Mendius (2009).
Relationships
Setting Boundaries That Stick: How Neurobiology Can Help You Rewire Your Brain to Feel Safe, Connected, and Empowered, by Juliane Taylor Shore and Rebecca Wong (2023).
Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself, by Nedra Glover Tawwab (2021).
Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships, by Nedra Glover Tawwab (2023).
The Book of Boundaries: Set the Limits That Will Set You Free, by Melissa Urban (2022).
Disentangling from Emotionally Immature People: Avoid Emotional Traps, Stand Up for Your Self, and Transform Your Relationships as an Adult Child of Emotionally Immature Parents, by Lindsay C. Gibson, Rachel Perry, et al. (2023).
The Power of Attachment: How to Create Deep and Lasting Intimate Relationships, by Diane Poole Heller and Peter Levine (2019).
Parenting
Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting, by Laura Markham (2012).
Peaceful Parent, Happy Siblings: How to Stop the Fighting and Raise Friends for Life, by Laura Markham (2015).
Aha! Parenting (website), by Laura Markham.
The Power of Showing Up: How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become and How Their Brains Get Wired, by Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson (2020).
Brain-Body Parenting: How to Stop Managing Behavior and Start Raising Joyful, Resilient Kids, by Mona Delahooke (2022).
Beyond Behaviors: Using Brain Science and Compassion to Understand and Solve Children's Behavioral Challenges, by Mona Delahooke (2019).
No Drama Discipline: The Whole-Brain Way to Calm the Chaos and Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind, by Tina Payne Bryson and Daniel J. Siegel (2016).
Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain, by Daniel J. Siegel (2015).
The Co-Parents' Handbook: Raising Well-Adjusted, Resilient, and Resourceful Kids in a Two-Home Family From Little Ones to Young Adults, by Karen Bonnell and Kristin Little (2014).
Grief and Loss
It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand, by Megan Devine (2017).
Healing Through the Dark Emotions: The Wisdom of Grief, Fear, and Despair, by Miriam Greenspan (2004).
The Wild Edge of Sorrow: Rituals of Renewal and the Sacred Work of Grief, by Francis Weller and Michael Lerner (2015).